Edward Robertson has a good post about not getting too dogmatic. He points out that the AbsoluteWrite forum, like Writer Beware (if memory serves, they're pretty much run by the same people), has chosen to get left behind and is now virulently anti-self-publishing. Which is really a shame--both performed an important service once.
And Helen Kay Dimon has a great one (via Isobel Carr) about not being an enormous whiny baby to your readers. Seriously.